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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Bach Flowers for Valentines

Today is Valentine's Day. It's a day to celebrate love I guess. It's a day that has some pretty confusing historical roots in my opinion. It can also be a rather confusing, "out of sorts" day. It can be a day of relationship measurement more than relationship celebration.  If you are a teenager today, you probably feel what I mean.  If you've been around a teenager today, you'll probably know what I mean.  If you've ever been a teenager, you'll probably remember what I mean.  For that reason, the gift of Bach Flowers might be the best Valentine's present you could ever give or receive.

Unfortunately perhaps, there's no one Bach Flower indicated for Valentine's day.  It can be rather difficult to put a description on your emotions or feelings and we all react differently, but  a few possibilities for the day include; Agrimony, Cerato, Cherry Plum, Chestnut Bud, Clematis, Crab Apple, Gentian, Honeysuckle, Larch,  Red Chestnut, Scleranthus, Water Violet, Willow and Holly.

If you're smiling and pretending you love the whole pomp and circumstance while inwardly you're crying, Agrimony might help you take off the mask. If you've turned into the class or office clown making jokes about the amount of chocolate you've consumed, the valentine decorations and the flowers, when deep down you feel like screaming, this might be the Bach for you.  If you've suggested you all go out to the bar after work to laugh at all the poor smucks that are celebrating today- this Bach is definitely for you!

If by lunch time today you've sent more than 100 texts asking your friends whether or not you should accept that invitation or extend that Valentine's invitation, give that "possibly perfect gift", or  help you choose what you should wear tonight, Cerato might be the Bach Flower for you.  It can help you trust your self and your inner knowing. Cerato can help you trust your own judgement as to what, and who, is right for you. It can also help you save on the cell phone bill!

If you woke up knowing you were just going to have a lousy depressing day because it's Valentine's Day, Gentian could be the Bach for you. It's helpful when you're feeling depressed or discouraged and you know exactly where the discouragement is coming from. It can help you realize, in fact, you may be making good progress in life. You might realize you have lots of good friends and a few too many cinnamon hearts and sappy engagement ring commercials aren't going to take that away from you.

If by the time you read this, you've seriously considered, or worried that you might, violently shred anything that in any way resembles a valentine decoration, crush chocolates, flowers, or flush paper hearts,  Cherry Plum is the Bach Flower for you. It is for the fear of losing control and Valentine's Day can do that to people! It's also helpful if you are afraid to lose control or let go of someone or something. Hmm... Cherry Plum can help you calm down so you can think rationally. After all, there are some things that just don't flush well and a clogged toilet on Valentine's Day won't likely improve your mood!!!

If you have dreaded this day for a week because you always have a lousy day, date, non-date, or experience on Valentine's Day, Chestnut Bud might be the Bach Flower for you. It's for people that keep repeating the same mistakes.  Like it or not, every February 14th is going to be Valentine's Day, it's what you do with the day that can change. Chestnut Bud can help you take advantage of your past "miss takes" and use them to move forward and improve your situation.

If you've been buying romance novels, watching Netflix love & romance movies, dreaming of the "knight in shinning armour" or the "sleeping princess", and are shocked to discover no incoming texts, phone calls, or appearances of that kind of activity in your life today, Clematis might be the Bach Flower for you. It's helpful when you are so caught up in dreamland you loose track of ,and interest in, the real world. Clematis can help ground you enough to consider the knight with the somewhat rusty armour or the over-achieving, hyper princess.

If all the focus on the "beautiful people" today has left you feeling embarrassed by that imperfect body, skin blemishes, crooked nose, mis-matched, last season,  clothes or clumsiness, Crab Apple might help you get through the day a bit easier. It can help you accept yourself and your imperfections. It can help you relax about yourself on a day when a lot of focus is on being someone for somebody else.

If you've been focused on elementary school Valentine's parties where everyone got cards, cake and Kool-aid. If you're wishing for the days when  "true-love" wasn't really the serious affair it is today, Honeysuckle might be for you. It's the remedy to consider when you're dwelling so much on the past, even if it wasn't actually that perfect, that you find it hard to deal with the present.

If you have taken advantage of the marketing focus and significance of the day and bought a very special Valentine gift for someone and lack the confidence to deliver it- Larch could be helpful for you.  It can help you take the risk.

If you're that elementary school teacher today that is worried about whether or not all the kids will get an equal number of Valentine's cards and no one will be damaged for life,  Red Chestnut might be helpful for you. If you're a parent of one of those teenagers and are so worried about their angst to the point that you're taking it on yourself and sending multiple texts to see how they are doing throughout the day, this is the remedy for you.  It can help you care with compassion but not anxiety.

If you mood has switched from ecstatic to depressed multiple times before noon today and you can't make a decision to save your soul, Scleranthus might be helpful. If you're confused over the choice of two possibilities (or people), and you've spent more than 5 minutes trying to decide which chocolate you want to eat first, consider Scleranthus to balance your mood. If the swings of happy to sad have anything to do with the amount of chocolates you've already consumed- there might be some lessons in that too!

If you've been perfectly content without a partner, making it on your own, and doing your own thing for the past few years, months, or weeks, and suddenly today you're feeling lonely, Water Violet might help you through a rough patch.  Water Violet types are capable and confident on their own and are rarely lonely, but because they don't feel the need to develop big social networks, they occasionally find themselves suffering without support or excluded from events. Water Violet might help you develop some healthy, warmer relationships so you do have support when you need it.

If everyone else has the perfect date, the perfect life, and the perfect situation but you, Willow might be helpful. If seeing that perfect couple walking hand in hand today makes you want to trip them, this remedy could be for you. If you're feeling that life has left you short-changed in the "love and relationship" department and you're more than a little bitter, feeling victimized about that, consider Willow and reassess.

Finally, if my earlier post about the search for a soul mate and the need to find love from within struck a cord with you but you just can't "get there", Holly might be helpful.  We have everything we need inside us to be complete. I'm sad to admit it doesn't come from chocolate. In my perfect world, on Valentine's Day I'd pipe Holly through the ventilation system of every school, office complex and high rise. It just might allow you to connect with your soul within so you could open your heart and find inner harmony.

Happy Valentine's Day for your soul.

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